1. Mistakes while learning
學(xué)習(xí)的時候犯錯

There will be times when you have people above you (a boss) or even next to you (a coworker) that will get really irritated with you for "ruining" something "crucial". Errors are bound to happen when you have on your training wheels. Even if you make mistakes and get a slap on the wrist, persevere and push on. You do not need to be embarrassed for learning from your mistakes.
有時候，你的上級甚至是你的同事會因?yàn)槟惆涯臣匾氖虑楦阍伊藳_你發(fā)火。學(xué)習(xí)的時候犯錯在所難免。即使犯錯，會有懲罰也要堅持，不斷向前進(jìn)。你不需要為學(xué)習(xí)中犯的錯而覺得不好意思。

2. Food choices
選擇食物

People are different and have different taste buds. Whether it is healthy or not, food is a choice and it is a part of life. It is simply a personal choice that people make for their own reasons. You do not need to be embarrassed for food you do or do not like. Tell them, "It is a personal choice I have made, and I am committed to it."
青菜蘿卜各有所愛。不管健康與否，食物都是一種選擇，是生活的一部分。那只是別人根據(jù)自己的理由做出的個人選擇。你不需要因?yàn)樽约旱目谖抖X得不好意思。告訴他們，“那是我自己的個人選擇，我就是要這些?！?/p>

3. Your past
你的過去

Allowing positive experiences to define, confine, refine, and outshine you may cause you to be caught up in the past and unable to truly live in the present. Whether your history is positive, negative, or somewhere in between, don't hone in on the negative experiences and let it reflect your current behavior.
讓有積極意義的體驗(yàn)來定義、限制、提升、凸顯你自己，你可能會因此陷入過去的泥淖，無法活在當(dāng)下。無論你的過去是積極樂觀的、消極抑郁的，或是介于兩者之間，不要沉浸在過去不好的經(jīng)歷中，讓它影響你現(xiàn)在的行為。

4. The cleanliness of your car/home/work space
汽車/家/工作場所的整潔度

When everyone gets in the car, you realize your Starbucks bag are still on the floor. So what? Think about it this way: everyone has a "messy" aspect of their life. Maybe their home is spotless, but the relationship with their spouse is messy. Someone's car gets washed once a week, but his/her work life could use some help. No one on Earth lives a perfectly "clean" life in every aspect. We don't apologize to others about our personal pitfalls. By being outwardly embarrassed, it only brings more attention to the fact!
當(dāng)別人到你車?yán)锏臅r候，你才意識到星巴克的袋子還在里面。那又怎樣？這樣想：每個人在生活中都會有一個不太整潔的地方。也許他家纖塵不染，但是夫妻關(guān)系一團(tuán)亂麻。有些人的車子每周清潔一次，但是他們的工作可能就需要別人的幫助。世上沒人能在生活的各個方面都做到潔凈無瑕。我們不必因?yàn)樽约旱娜毕菹騽e人道歉。你表現(xiàn)出的尷尬只會更容易引起別人的注意。

5. Putting yourself first
把自己放在首位

If you find yourself saying no to something or making up lies to get out of it, tell them the truth, and don't apologize. You will feel much better in the long run if you are honest with them and yourself. If you're not up to a voluntary obligation, you don't have to be. You can politely deny the person's request. It is okay to be selfish from time to time. Put yourself first. 如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)你想拒絕某件事或者說謊來擺脫，那就說出事實(shí)，你不必因此而覺得抱歉。對別人誠實(shí)，也終于內(nèi)心，長期以后你會覺得這種感覺很不錯。如果不是意定義務(wù)，你大可不必。你可以禮貌地拒絕對方的請求。有時候自私也沒什么。把自己放在第一位。

(來源：大耳朵英語 編輯：許晶晶)